Guest Post by Ratterporn, PhD
About seven years ago I stumbled upon a book review of A Round-Heeled Woman by one Jane Juska. I was immediately intrigued! Juska is a retired high school English teacher living in Berkeley, California and was sixty-seven years old. After a failed marriage and a relatively sexless life she decided she was fed up and craving cock. Being a little too old for single’s bars and a bit overweight and shopworn, also a literary snob, she posted a personal ad in the back pages of the “New York Review of Books.”
The ad basically said that Juska was a sixty-seven year old woman who was looking for sex and literate conversation–an interest in Trollope, her favorite writer, would win many brownie points.
Apparently Juska received over sixty replies from the ad, from men ranging in age from thirty-two to one-hundred, and she began communications with her prospective suitors via letter and email and phone conversations. Eventually she began meeting various men and built herself what some in the PUA community would call a “soft harem.” To wit, she was fucking numerous guys, had various levels of relationships with them and was enjoying the fuck out of life, no pun intended.
Juska traversed the country and gives details of her encounters, including fairly graphic sexual details in some instances. Her final “conquest” is Graham, a thirty-two year old New Yorker who visits her in San Francisco where they have a torrid tryst in some bucolic setting and she raves about his sexy body and big cock.
My immediate thought upon reading the review, and subsequently the book, was how society would react if a man nearing seventy had placed the same ad and done the same things as Juska and had the cheek to write about it. Would his book have ever seen print? I find it highly unlikely! If it had been published, the man would have been vilified by a vast cadre of feminists as a war pig and woman hater/user and a “dirty old man” taking advantage of young girls.
Juska, being a woman, achieved a minor celebrity, went on book-signing tours and even published a follow-up book in which she lamented losing several women friends due to her “neglect” of them while copulating and pined away for Graham, her youthful Adonis, who had married and had seemingly forgotten about her. The latest I’ve heard is that Round-Heeled Woman is now been made into a play. Juska apparently became an object of veneration by “lonely” women everywhere, a new voice for female empowerment.
While I have nothing against a sixty-something woman with a pear-shaped body fucking as many men as she can, several points come to mind from Juska’s story. One is the desperation of most American men. The “New York Review of Books” does not post photo ads but the fact this ad received over sixty replies says a lot about the state of American manhood. Many of the men Juska met (and fucked) were rich and footed the bill for her to fly from San Francisco to New York, feted her with lavish dinners and some footed her hotel tabs at fancy establishments. I kept thinking as I read of her trysts that these men could have used that money on a trip overseas and fucked a dozen twenty-somethings. Fuck Trollope! They could have joined a snobby book club to discuss his vast shelf of works. And, of course, the vast double-standard in our society immediately jumped out and reared its ugly face. Apparently if a sexagenarian woman fucks a whole bunch of men and writes a book chronicling it, she is hailed as a champion of women and a voice for all of the disaffected and sexless females in America. This in itself is a fallacy since most men are quite aware that women of all ages and looks can get sex pretty much any time they want, whereas millions of men lead sexless lives and no one cares until they shoot up a mall or a school. Even then, the fact these men might be enraged because they’re not getting laid is rarely mentioned.
The male equivalent of Jane Juska will never emerge, at least in this country. He would be laughed at by all serious book publishers and his ad would probably be nixed in any serious personal’s page or web site. He would have to travel about twenty hours’ East to find the pleasure his ancient body craves. God bless the USA!!!!!!
This is something I never quite understand. How does a personals ad from a random girl attract so many sincere responses, that too from seemingly rich, good looking and well settled guys.
I remember I had read some dating advice book back in the day where a thirty something women posted an ad in some classifieds section saying she only wants to date rich men (along with some other personality traits she mentioned). Apparently she was flooded with date offers and it even had guys who owned yachts.
I don’t get why people don’t just fuck escorts instead
If thats the case maybe I should post an ad. I just feel kind of low class or weird doing so. And I’m afraid it will attract weirdos. When I think of attractive, desirable men with good, sane heads on their shoulders, I don’t picture them answering ads.
Johnny, Some of the men that answered Juska’s ad are simply inexplicable to me. Why a 32 year old hunk living in NYC would want to fuck a 67 year old plump, unattractive woman is beyond me. It either speaks to some personal psychopathology or is something out of “Harold and Maude.” Some of these men held jobs as physicians and business executives and some were isolate types living in middle of nowhere but apparently with enough cash to foot the bill for Juska’s visits. Why any of them would choose her is a great mystery? It suggests, perhaps, either the immense desperation of the American male and/or a tremendous lack of imagination and knowledge of the available pudenda resources around the world.
“Many of the men Juska met (and fucked) were rich and footed the bill for her to fly from San Francisco to New York, feted her with lavish dinners and some footed her hotel tabs at fancy establishments.”
This is why what the Manosphere writes about women is wrong. These men had sex with this old woman yet treated her well and paid for everything. Like you said, there were various levels of “relationship” going on, not just pump and dump.
However, aside from a few, I’m willing to bet most of the men were merely average looking, some probably even below average, i.e., physically unattractive.
There just aren’t THAT many good looking guys here in the US for all of her lovers to have been above average looking. In fact, since coming here I can count on one hand how many truly handsome men I’ve seen, most are just “meh”.
And you are wrong that a man would not get shamed for this very same thing. Look at Hugh Heffner. He is idolized by MRAs and PUA wannabes. (though of course we know those women are all on his payroll and they all have hot young stud muffin boyfriend who sexually please them, still the fantasy he peddles is NOT SHAMED).
So I guess even if my parents insist on arranging my marriage, I can still cougar it up in old age once my husband dies. Good to know!
First, even though I’m guest-posting on a blog that you deem as part of the “manosphere” let me make it clear I speak only for myself and I made these observations long before the so-called “manosphere” even existed. I disavow any particular affiliation with this amorphous group.
Second, if you haven’t, I suggest you read Juska’ book for yourself. From what I could gather, most of the men she met were at least attractive enough to arouse her and some were well above-average in looks if you factor in their age. You appear to be a young and attractive woman naturally seeking a partner compatible in looks and intelligence. For now, you have much to bargain with and if you are not happy with American men there are many good-looking men around this wide world. I am guessing you already attract your fair share of attention from the opposite sex. Let’s see how YOU fare at age sixty-seven! The preponderance of average men and women in their late sixties are not attracting throngs of lustful admirers.
Third, I am not sure what relevance your observations on the attractiveness of lack thereof on American men has to do with my posting.
Lastly, I think using Hugh Hefner as an example that I am wrong is rather specious. Hefner is a celebrity who built a vast empire and has lived a life surrounded by young women he appears to adore. He has enjoyed this life by staying true to his vision and lived it long before he became old and ugly. Even in the age of so-called “3rd wave feminism,” thousands of women want to appear in his magazine and he is not employing a white slaver to maintain the vast number of women either living at or visiting the Playboy mansion. His celebrity and wealth set him apart from the average Joe or Jane–in this case Jane Juska! Mae West, you might recall, was another celebrity famous for her dalliances with men up to a late age in life and she was not vilified, either. Provide me with an example of a sixty-something man who is pudgy, unattractive, neither rich or powerful and has lived an ordinary and prosaic life and then make your case.
Rattaporn
“Provide me with an example of a sixty-something man who is pudgy, unattractive, neither rich or powerful and has lived an ordinary and prosaic life and then make your case.”
Why on earth would any woman, young or old, want to have sex with such a man? If women of any age respond to such a plea I would be a thousand times more shocked than I am by Juska.
Hugh Heffer pays those women “handsomely” (heh) to burp and fart around him. They have real boyfriends and lovers their own age (or younger). They are not in it “for him” but the money, status and possible fame that comes from it.
My dear,
You have just proven my point. Recall that Juska’s ad was not even an ordinary personal’s ad such as you used to see in “NYRB.” It specifically stated she was a sixty-seven year old woman that hadn’t had enough sex and was seeking men to have sex with, prerably men that like Anthony Trollope.
The point of my blog was that if a man that age placed a similar ad mentioning that he wanted sex, assuming “NYRB” would even allow it, he would be an object of derision and laughed at and would get NO responses. Juska, who placed no picture (since “NYRB” didn’t allow for pictures) received over sixty replies from men as young as thirty-two. My point was twofold in that a man placing such an ad would be derided as a lecher and would get no responses because no woman would want him. Juska’s “success” speaks loudly to the sad condition of the lonely American man and your comment above simply proves the point of my posting.
Anthony Trollope was nothing but a trollop!
I agree with you that the old man would not get nearly as many takers as this old woman. She was horny and up for anything and men took the bait. A man her same age won’t even be able to get it up, unless he took Viagra, and there’s no way he could be “good in bed” for a woman. Well, maybe oral sex. Just the thought of that grosses me out. I’d rather be a cougar at 50 with fumbling, horny, awkward 19 year olds than with such an old geezer.
Men hit their wall at 35.
However IF an old man managed to wing it and wrote a book like this then PUAs and MRAs would be all “you go guy!!!” and pimping the book on their websites and inviting him to speak at their “summits”.
Correction: “And you are wrong that a man would not get shamed for this very same thing” should read….
“you are wrong that a man WOULD GET shamed…”
I mean, dude built an empire around it. And he is like 2,000 years old and totally busted looking.