“New York is amazing!” Bob exclaimed. “You just get out and the girls are everywhere! They are great and they’re really interested in older guys! It’s a different ballgame, up here! I met this Polish girl the other night when I was out, she was so into me! She’s only 22, and a college student, but we’re going to meet soon.”
“Great!” I replied.
Bob continues bragging, “You’re the only person I know that’s not happy with the girls in America! Your problem is that you blame the system. There is nothing wrong with the system. When things don’t work I blame myself. You’re living in the wrong city. I’ve been telling you that for years, but you just don’t listen. New York City is great, there so much to do!”
“I thought you took out that Sri Lankan girl?” I stated.
“Yeah, Friday night, I did.” Bob said. “She is so into me!”
“I thought you said you don’t like Indian type girls and that you only like 6 foot tall Eastern European girls?” I asked.
“She’s different; she’s lived in 8 countries!” Bob said.
“I thought you told me she was 36 and looks only average and has too much junk in the trunk.” I replied.
“Naw, she looks OK”, replied Bob. “The system is fine you’re just not putting your effort into the right places. You know, you’re all over the place!”
“No, I’m not all over the place.” I replied. “I know what I’m doing. I’m going overseas.”
“You can go overseas and go for the 90% sure thing,” Bob said, like this is some weakness.
“I’m booking my flight to Brazil, tomorrow,” I replied.
“But I’m willing to stay in the US and go after the 10% chance that something will happen! Even if there is only a 1% chance, I’m willing to still go for it!” Bob proudly boasts.
“Great.” I replied.
“I’m a fighter and I’ll never give up!” Bob stubbornly states this like this is some virtue.
“O.K., when I’m in Brazil, I’ll fuck an extra girl for you. We’ll have a toast to Bob the fighter!” I replied.
Hey Bob, sorry you couldn’t make it!
“I’m a fighter and I’ll never give up!”, “You can go overseas and go for the 90% sure thing,” Bob said, like this is some weakness.
These implications of these two statements are so important yet so under appreciated. Most of us have been so conditioned to “not give up early”, “no pain, no gain”, “nothing comes easy”, “man up and don’t be a pussy” etc. that we refuse to realize that something is not working and that it is time to change track.
For a long time, my “problem” with chicks was that I felt it is supposed to be hard and if it feels super easy, then something is wrong. When I completely stopped going for the “hard” chicks and exclusively went after chicks who made it super easy for me, my results literally quadrupled overnight.
Implication of this are actually way beyond chicks. If people actually accepted in a humble way when their career choices are not working out, they would automatically start doing much better in their careers too.
Mystery and Neil Strauss talking about opening “hard sets”. Why would you want to waste your time? I go for the easy and what works. I’ve known guys that will go to the same bar for 10 years and have never met a girl there. I asked this guy why do you keep going back. He replied, “the girls are so hot there!” Duh, but you never get one! Time to move on!
Very good article! I agree completely and am wondering why you think American men are in such a state of denial about the way things are here?
They’ve bought into the American Scheme. They’ll keep beating there head against the wall until it bleeds before they will make a changes!
“American Men are in Denial” will be a continuing series of posts. There is a lot of denial going on and it has many aspects. Not to mention my friends give me new material all the time.
Another good post. I should point out however that in the english speaking cultures usually going for the easier girl means going for the WARPIG. But outside the anglosphere its a different story.
But yes there are a ton of chodes out there that are dumb as fuck and do not realize that some social environments are simply too toxic to bother, so they continue pursuing second-rate females.
It’s amazing how many men will eat shit and think it’s cavier!
Many of these guys are assholes so I say, “let them eat shit!”
Have you ever done street game in Manhattan? I admit that I need to approach a lots women to get one lay, but Manhattan is so packed and dense with hot girls that I manage to approach in the three figures within a few hours. Every time I have visited a friend there, I have gotten laid. This, incidentally is what Paul Janka also does. All you need there is a thick skin and be an approach machine.