by guest poster: Dr. Rattaporn
Dr. Rattaporn is a doctor of Psychology for the last 30 years. I hope you enjoy his post.
I think there are always some guys getting laid in USA, obviously, and maybe the question is better phrased as who gets laid the most with the best quality of women?
Young, attractive guys, obviously, stand a much better chance of getting laid but many of these guys are also in “serious” relationships and in ten years are the men you will see on Saturdays in Wal Mart with a now much fatter wife and passel of kids in tow looking resigned, forlorn, defeated and beaten. Maybe another valuable question is: Who is NOT getting laid? Lets start with who IS getting laid
—Black and Latino Men–A lot of black men I have know are getting laid regularly, and some are major players. I would add many Latino men to this list as well. The Latino nerd in the movie “Napoleon Dynamite” is the exception rather than the rule and most Latino men I have known had game and plenty of it. Game is part and parcel of their culture.
–Men in uniform–cops, fireman, etc. all have a better chance of getting laid and I have known a lot of cops who never had a problem getting ass, even ugly ones. An example is the cop I once worked with who decided to see how many women he could fuck in a year. Using online game (this was in 2002 or so), he pulled 32 ladies despite being bald and having a gut rivaling the late Chris Farley’s. His conquests included a lesbian couple who claimed to be virgins to hetero sex and a mixture of women ranging from “3′s” to “8′s.” This guy was on the Internet during his entire night shift and sometimes had 8-9 chats going simultaneously.
—Many young people in America are still getting laid, though I think the numbers have gone way down since I were in high school and college in the late 70′s/early 80′s. I have heard dating has gone out-of-fashion and people tend to go out more in groups.
—Players commonly called “naturals” by the PUA community, that know how to game women and do not post on forums like Roosh’s and Nomad’s because what they know they have learned by various means and circumstances and they are much more interested in porking women than sharing gaming advice on a forum. Most of them have internalized their game to the extent that they are very poor at describing what they do–they simply do it! I believe this is a small percentage of men.
—Good-looking men, are the types that will always attract a woman and often will have a girlfriend or be dating (and fucking). Some of these men will have game and some won’t–many are pursued by women so it is much easier for them. Often they are in relationships where the woman hopes things will lead up to marriage or in “complicated” relationships of long duration where the man has not made a commitment. Many of these men will settle for a “5″ woman, though I also know many who will not. I had one “8″ friend who would not date a woman over a size 0, for example. He was in a complicated LTR but fucked other beautiful women whenever he had the chance.
–VERY rich men or professional athletes or celebrities—probably laid more than any other group of men. These men are pursued by women and always get the choicest pussy. The greater the fame and accomplishment and wealth, the higher the quality of ass. Thus now and forever it shall be!!!
—Criminals–I lived in Grants Pass, Oregon for six months and worked solely with criminal offenders who had been released from prisons in Oregon and California. Some of these men were very violent and hardened criminals and nearly all of them I met with had a girlfriend by their 2nd week in town. I was a professional in a small town with many available women and worked hard but could not get a date or a fuck in that town until my last month there. I have read that Richard Ramirez, the Hillside Strangler in LA, used to average 13 marriage proposal letters per week–and this was a man who had brutally tortured and raped many women. Some women are VERY attracted to bad boys and I have had opportunity to talk to hundreds of them. In all my talks with them, not one mentioned being lonely or having a problem finding a woman or getting laid.
WHO IS NOT GETTING LAID:
–Married men–I am guessing that most married men are not getting laid nearly as often as they would like! Many have come right out and told me this. It is typical for the woman in a pre-marital relationship to be very sexual and then this sexuality gradually diminishes after the marriage so that hand jobs in the car, fucking in the woods, etc. become a thing of the past and a distant memory for most married men. This tends to worsen even more with having children as the wife has now fulfilled her biologic destiny and naturally will devote more time to rearing the child/children. She will gradually control the sex and make the man feel like she is doing him a favor when she gives it. Her only times of increased horniness will be the times when she wants more children. This is, of course, not true in all marriages but I have seen enough couples in my life to believe this is a fairly consistent pattern. Another factor is that passion naturally wanes. Some women (and men) are asexual and so sex is seen more as a duty than a fun and fulfilling part of the relationship. I have known a few men married to women like this and they all ended up cheating to get some sexual fulfillment. We also have to consider that most men are not biologically programmed to have sex with one woman and maybe women are not programmed to have sex with just one man–so even reading a zillion books on how to enhance one’s marital sex life will not help and the sex will become dull and perfunctory because passion never lasts. As Bukowski (and others) said, “Show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of fucking her.
–Average or unattractive men: I read a lot of shit about average-looking or unattractive men who are quite successful with the ladies. Such men do exist but I think the percentage of them is very low. Most men of average looks may attract 1-2 women per year and many go years without getting laid. This is really fucking sad but it is common in America. Many of these men “settle” for any woman they can get, such as my 55 y/o friend in Illinois who was fucking a 73 y/o woman. These men are also not going to attract any woman much above a “5″ or “6″ and are more likely to attract a “3″ who thinks she is a “10″ and wants to be treated like a queen. These average-looking guys are much farther down the scale of desirability than a woman of average looks. I have known many a woman of average looks who could routinely go to bars and pick up much better-looking men for a night of sex!
–Ugly men–even sadder. These are the men you see at all-night diners flirting with the waitresses who are usually fat cows. Drinking coffee, lost, alone, some too dumb to realize their sad fates, even. These are the men who, if they are smart and have money, turn to mongering or go to Asian Massage Parlors. If they are poor they are fucked, though not literally. There are millions of these lonely men throughout America and they are some of the saddest souls imaginable. I do not have official statistics but I am guessing their suicide rate is one of the highest of all people in the country. A subset of ugly men includes fat men–I have met many women, usually a bit larger themselves, who liked the cuddly, chubby, “teddy-bear” type of man. I have met almost NO women who liked a man with a big gut and I have asked this question to hundreds of women. Even grossly fat women prefer a muscular mesomorph and some of these fat women are successful in finding these types to fuck them.
–Misfits—These are the type of men like David DeAngelo (Eben Pagan), Cliff from Cliff’s list, etc.–men who are good-looking but socially backward and unable to engage a woman or escalate attraction. Many are shy, nerdy, geeks, etc. and give off a creepy vibe. Some are also unattractive as well. Their common bond is that they do not attract women because of their behavior. Many mass murderers and serial rapists probably are in this group as well.
–Poor men–This is excluding the criminal element and abusive “alpha” dominating type males, most of whom can easily find many woman to support and fuck them. Money and income matters a LOT in America and if you want proof just join Match.com and meet a few women and listen to them interview you during your initial phone chat. One of the first things they will ask you, casually but with bad intentions, is about your job, house, car, travels, etc. Women are cagey so these questions will often be asked in roundabout ways; but a man owning a house and making $200,000 a year is going to have FAR more initial success than a man making $20,000 a year working as a janitor.